Healing isn’t linear. The hard conversations we’ll have here won’t be either. But we have to start somewhere, so we’re going to start with a little bit of vocabulary. Today’s vocabulary word is “trauma”.
We all have experiences that shape us. Most of our experiences shape us in a positive way. We learn, grow, develop relationships, compile fond memories.
We also have experiences that shape us in a negative way. We’ve been traumatized, hurt, scarred, had our trust broken, and saw, felt, or heard something we shouldn’t have. Some of these experiences are so bad that they eat away at the person God designed us to be. I call these experiences “trauma”. Trauma gets thrown around a lot; I want to be very clear with the way I use this word.
It’s impossible to go through life without experiencing trauma whether on a large scale or small. Whether it causes you to never date blondes again or drives you to therapy like it did for me.
It’s okay to admit you have trauma. We all do. It’s even more okay to get help to move past your trauma. And the most okay thing to do once you’ve gotten to the “other side” is to talk about your trauma.
Because someone needs to hear what you have to say. Someone who experienced something painful, just like you did, and they need to know that there’s hope. They need to know that they can heal. They need to know that something good can come from the bad things in their life.
That’s why I’m here. Not to share the details of the bad experiences I’ve had, but to share how I:
Buried my trauma
Coped with my trauma in unhealthy ways
Admitted that I had trauma
Got help to move past my trauma
Learned how to cope with my trauma in healthy ways
Recovered the lost parts of myself that trauma ate away